tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4693850266469080529.post2263809256533004453..comments2023-11-02T05:27:19.778-07:00Comments on Life Without School: Bad Boys and Mean GirlsBeckyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17229429445882282731noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4693850266469080529.post-54451226520846511252008-09-04T11:33:00.000-07:002008-09-04T11:33:00.000-07:00So glad I stopped by today. I needed to read this ...So glad I stopped by today. I needed to read this post.<BR/><BR/>I struggle with these very things with both of my boys.<BR/><BR/>I definately see the need to step back and give them more space to try -- and fail.<BR/><BR/>And I need to know how to respond when Nic gets annoyed at condescending adults. I realized just yesterday that it's probably better that they think he's a brat and I'm a bad mama -- than it would be to make him suffer their comments.<BR/><BR/>Good thoughts that keep me move in the direction I need to...<BR/><BR/>Marymamastreasureshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13591098370802575948noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4693850266469080529.post-45136862549182008802008-09-01T09:34:00.000-07:002008-09-01T09:34:00.000-07:00Thanks, Colleen. It certainly helps to know that ...Thanks, Colleen. It certainly helps to know that I'm not the only one trying to keep my mouth shut!<BR/><BR/>I love the realization you've had about your sister. Molly and I have been committed (at times) to writing letters (real ones, not electronic)and that has really helped us stay close, because they are so personal and heartfelt. But I do miss her so much.Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17229429445882282731noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4693850266469080529.post-71433927761231483222008-09-01T08:58:00.000-07:002008-09-01T08:58:00.000-07:00What a great post. I struggle with that too someti...What a great post. I struggle with that too sometimes. Not so much with other kids now that Jerry is older but with other adults who will say something to him and Jerry will respond in a way that just makes me cringe. Like if he's in a bad mood and someone else tries to cheer him up he has no problem scowling and swatting that person away--even though it's an adult--and I always feel like I need to start making excuses for his behavior or like I need to tell him not to act that way. <BR/><BR/>But lately I've been trying to keep my mouth shut, too. I came to the realization that what I'm doing when I make excuses for him (in front of him) or tell him he needs to be nice, is really serving the other person, and I think serving Jerry needs to be my top priority--if that makes sense. Maybe serving isn't the right word but I think his needs need to come first. Not the needs of the adult he may have offended. So I guess that's a really long-winded way of saying "right on! I totally agree with you!" :)<BR/><BR/>By the way, I just wanted to tell you that you and your sister inspired me to think more about how sisters CAN live in separate countries and still be close. I was feeling very bitter about my sister living in Ireland because she keeps saying she's moving back "home" and then changing her plans. But I recently told her that I think she should just stop talking about coming back to the US and enjoy being where she is. It was a big relief to her because one of the main things drawing her back home was guilt. We (my mom and dad and brother) all really want her close but I suppose we want her to be happy a little bit more. So, thanks for that. ;)Colleen Paeffhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08218930688866372571noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4693850266469080529.post-28090844735994572252008-08-30T16:56:00.000-07:002008-08-30T16:56:00.000-07:00Thanks, Angela. Glad you were able to enjoy the t...Thanks, Angela. Glad you were able to enjoy the talk. I love the graphics on your blog! Cool. Stop on by anytime.Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17229429445882282731noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4693850266469080529.post-46803088975913227552008-08-30T15:08:00.000-07:002008-08-30T15:08:00.000-07:00Thank you for this wonderful post, it really spoke...Thank you for this wonderful post, it really spoke to me. I was just mulling over an incident today when I wasn't geniune and pretended to be easy going so as to fit in. And I've been feeling bad about it for a few hours now. Your post really helped me look at it in a different light. <BR/>Just a side note, I really enjoyed your talk (on CD) from the HSC conference.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com